Narcissists in the Workplace and Scapegoated Children

Individuals with narcissistic tendencies often gravitate towards positions of authority, creating a challenging work environment for individuals who were raised by narcissistic parents. This post provides an overview of narcissistic personality disorder, offers insights into recognising narcissistic behaviour in a professional setting, and offers practical advice for individuals who have experienced being the scapegoated child. To break the cycle, one must first cultivate self-awareness and establish firm boundaries.

Growing up with a narcissistic parent can make navigating the professional world quite difficult. Individuals with narcissistic tendencies often gravitate towards roles of influence and leadership, enabling them to replicate familiar patterns of dysfunction. If you have experienced being the scapegoated child, you may encounter situations where you become the target of mistreatment from a boss or coworker who exhibits narcissistic traits. It is essential to have a clear understanding of the characteristics of narcissism and how to safeguard yourself.

What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

Individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) exhibit a distinct set of traits that distinguish them from others. These traits include an exaggerated sense of self-importance, a notable absence of empathy, and an insatiable craving for admiration. Individuals with fragile egos often manipulate others to fulfil their desires. In a professional setting, individuals may unjustly claim credit for the accomplishments of others, shift blame onto others, and engage in tactics to undermine or intimidate those they view as potential rivals.

Identifying Characteristics of a Narcissistic Individual in the Workplace:

• Presents a confident portrayal of their abilities and accomplishments

• Thrives on receiving constant praise and admiration.

• Displays a limited capacity for understanding and relating to the emotions of others.

• Responds with intense anger or disdain towards criticism

• Exploits others to fulfil their desires

• Demonstrates a sense of entitlement

• Demonstrates a strong focus on achieving success, wielding power, embodying beauty, or pursuing an idealised notion of love

The Scapegoated Child

If you have experienced being unfairly targeted and constantly criticised within your family, you may have developed a heightened sensitivity to manipulative behaviour often associated with certain individuals. An individual with a narcissistic disposition in a professional setting has the potential to evoke emotions of inadequacy, fear, and a strong inclination to appease them. On the contrary, standing up for yourself is not a sign of being "difficult" - it is an act of self-preservation.

Ensuring Your Personal Safety

• Establish clear boundaries regarding how you expect to be treated.

• Refuse to tolerate any unwarranted blame, criticism, or abuse.

• Record instances of mistreatment.

• Steer clear of getting entangled in unnecessary conflicts of authority.

• It is important to approach constructive feedback with an open mind and not view it as a personal attack.

• Establish a network of like-minded professionals who can provide valuable validation and support

• It may be worth discussing the matter with HR if it goes against company policies

Every individual deserves a workplace that is safe and promotes good mental health. By cultivating a keen sense of self-awareness and employing effective strategies to counteract manipulative tactics, you can effectively break free from the cycle of victimisation. It is important to recognise that the experiences you had as a child were not your fault. However, it is crucial to understand that reclaiming your power is now your responsibility.